Does your child come home from school with unexplainable injuries, damaged books or electronics, or jewelry? Have you noticed declining in grades, finding any reason not to go to school? These are warning signs your child is being bullied. Bullying is a distinctive pattern of humiliating or harming others. Bullies usually attack someone who seems weaker or different.
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Effects of bullying on children
- An estimated number of 16,000 young people are absent from school because of bullying.
- 83% of young people say bullying has a negative impact on their self-esteem http://www.ditchthelabel.org/uk-bullying-statistics-2014/
- Bullied victims are between 2 to 9 times more likely to consider suicide than non-victims, according to studies by Yale University. (http://www.bullyingstatistics.org)
Bullying has become a norm among teenagers and this has even started to creep into the younger children. There are basically 4 types of bullying:
Physical bullying involves hitting, kicking, pinching and pushing or damaging property of the victim. Physical bullying causes both short term and long term damages such as injuries, depression and anxiety.
Verbal bullying is associated with name calling, teasing, intimidation or verbal abuse. While verbal bullying can start off harmless, but it can escalate to levels which could affect the individual target emotionally.
Social bullying, most at times referred to as covert bullying. It is often difficult to recognize and can be carried out when the bullying victim is not around. Its sole aim is to harm someone’s social reputation and cause humiliation. These include mimicking unkindly, spreading rumors, negative physical gestures etc.
Online bullying or more commonly known as cyberbullying is subtle and very dangerous, most parents are not even aware of it. It is the sending of hurtful text, images, emails nasty rumor via social media apps on various online platforms to the targeted child to cause harm. Cyberbullying is more common for children nowadays because of the rise in the use of the Internet.
Bullying in any form should not be encouraged and must be frowned on. A kid being bullied expects to come home and have someone to talk to. However, if this kid does not have that opportunity, the incident is ‘bottled’ up inside and this may lead to depression and even suicide attempts.
As parents and guardians, the responsibility falls you to identify and help your children in times like this.
The question now is how do parents help their kids to stand up to bullies?
First, children deserve an environment where they can open up to their parents about anything without a fear of being ignored, abused and even laughed at. Parents have to build self-confidence in their children. Their children must know that they are special, loved, valued and appreciated.
If your child ever reports a case of bullying to you, never ever brush it aside. Look into it. Take it up with the responsible authority. This will make your child feel and know that you have got their back. Kids tend to believe that as long as their parents support them, they can take the whole world and not be bothered.
You might have missed some opportunities to notice any signs of bullying with your kid. You do not need to be sad or angry with yourself. According to studies, only 1 out of 10 cyberbullied victims tells an adult about being bullied. So in most cases, your child may never open up to you.
But having mSpy parental control app will ease your worries. Parents will have access to all messages sent via social media chat platforms, an ability to monitor their browsing history to check if there is any external link sent to harass their kids.
In essence, building a strong support system for your kids goes a long way in helping them stand up to bullies knowing that they are special, valued and loved.
mSpy – Know. Prevent. Protect.