Going from middle school to high school might be less stressful for your child if you know how to deal with changes and challenges your kid (or teen, huh?) faces at this particular moment in their life. Parents need to consider multiple factors to make this process as smooth as possible for kids. In this article, we will name them and give ways out.
The biggest thing that annoys any adolescent is when parents continue treating them like babies. They call and text frequently, checking if they had breakfast, get to school safely etc. It seems trivial but most parents make this mistake all the time. So the most important rule for parents: do not overprotect!
The kid at this time is ready to accept what the world has to offer for them. Michael Thompson, Ph.D. says
“Children may go through ups and downs but they find efforts to heal; find new ways for friendship, love, acceptance, etc.”
Ok, that’s was the preamble.
Here are 10 common mistakes parents make when kids are going from middle school to high school. (We won’t leave you with that – we’re giving tips!) Read on.
If you’re doing great with your career, it doesn’t mean you can push, press, and impose your way of aiming high. Do not get obsessed and do not go insane with “Do you want them to recruit you into their football team?”, or worse “What the heck are you thinking?
Parents are always worried whether they screw up with parenting. They want to know if their kid has friends, takes part ACTIVELY in the community’s life, or helps local NGOs. Dating time freaks moms out: “Do girls see how handsome my son is?”, “What if my teen daughter is too tall for boys?”, etc.
Overparenting is not doing any good. It shows that you don’t trust your kid enough to handle things on their own. Besides, you don’t let them get new social skills, knowledge, experience people can acquire only on their own interaction with the world. Be careful, they might end up annoyed with you for that.
You can’t forbid to love tech. You can’t forbid to use tablets, smartphones, apps, YouTube. At this age, no-no, mama! Kids sleep with devices, eat with them, and even take shower with them. You can manage their “tech love” but not forbid it at all. (As promised, we’ll tell you how to do it a little bit later).
Do not expect them to be excellent at everything they do: high scores, all-around commitment and engagement. Let them pick their pace and schedule as well as people to spend time with. Oh! Grabbed your piece of advice?
Don’t ask to open up if they don’t want to. Don’t push or manipulate. Just be a good mama and enjoy that piece of info you’ve already received.
Sometimes parents torture children with negative assumptions about places they are going to visit, people to meet, courses to attend, etc. As a result, kids do not want to ask for advice when dealing with something new in their life.
Kids feel literally like fools, insecure when parents judge them for every single thing, especially for mistakes from they have made in the past. And they hate when parents “foresee” the result of their kid’s decisions considering those mistakes.
At this particular age, it’s too late. It is late to foster organizing skills and good habits by controlling or managing the stuff they have to deal on their own. Self-discipline is something they have to acquire by themselves.
Your beloved and groomed kid might have problems with money. It’s not a reason to react if the situation is not critical. This issue is the most sensitive and an adolescent has to gain “financial muscles” by tackling it on their own.
To track some deviant behavior use a keylogger to get useful insights about your kid’s interest, hobbies, inclinations, etc. A keylogger allows to view words, phrases, texts entered on a monitored device.
To sum up, you can always navigate between your needs as a parent and your kid’s ones. With mSpy you can do both without losing mutual trust and respect.